We seldom do what we think. Yes I know you are not believing me but just think of the number of occassions you wanted to say something harsh to your teacher, your boss, your friends for their ill behavior. How many times you could say what your mind wanted to say? I am sure it's less than 10%. Accept it, we all do. It's kind of our escape route from anxiety and frustration. We talk big, do small. And that affects our overall stature about us in our own eyes. We drag ourselves down a bit each time we fail to say the truth on the face. Very good reason of doing that is, we don't want to be enlisted as enemy to so many people and other reason is we don't have the courage to say the truth. I am not saying we should practice telling the truth-on-face nor am I encouraging you to do. It is just another bit of heart-out desire which I don't think would ever be fulfilled.
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It came suddenly, stirred my mind and went away. I am talking about the effect of social networking in our lives. I know this has been talked about probably million times. But again, they were not being told by me. I have my own version to say and here I am. Amazingly enough social networks, particularly Facebook made things different than we were used to see it. It is kind of home address now. If you don't have one, you are homeless. What is not going there? Meets up, conferences, official chats, personal bonding - you name it. Many would argue that we have stretched it too far and made it like see-me-how-cool-I-am platform but yet I would like to see it in my own angle. It's an opportunity for a friend to know the side of his friend, which probably was unknown to him in those years. And I found people are open to talk about themselves in social networks. May be it is easier to talk to a computer than to a live person. But I found many different sides and shades of persons I used to know. I feel it would never be possible if there was not any Facebook. The people whom you would never had time for a phone call, you atleast would be able to know what he is doing by only reading her status. Which is cool. People get a little caught up and brag a little about every tiny things but hey this is how things are shaping up these days. What I am trying to say is: things are get moving faster than pre facebook age. Things are changing, people are changing and to me change is good. It seems like I've taken a break, a little longer than usual. While reading one book of Azar Nafisi's Things I've Been Silent About one thing struck my chord. She asked, if we know the people that are elderly than us, would eventually go away from the world before us, why we don't try to understand them more, why don't we take more time to know them? Why? Why the people we love, be neglected by us most? If only we could be a little patient, had not the things be altered? Had we not become better son or daughter if we could be a less engrossed with only ourselves rather than our dad or mom? It had always been a subject for discussion that we don't value the people we get in our life when they are with us. Only when they are gone we lament and feel how important they were for us. I think it is our one of the many excuses to avoid confrontation with our own. We know it from very beginning that this day would come, yet we take it for granted. Having said all, I mean, we think only about us. We act or lie to us about missing the particular loved ones. I sound ruthless, but to me it's true. Our own life is most precious to us, we remember the person only when we are supposed to get something from her, celebrate our Mother's and Father's day for showing but seldom do care. We are narcissist and hypocrites - Period. Oh you are right! You have to give the test of being successful all of your life - there is no way out. After when you just graduated or entered to your work place you might have thought: "so here I am. I have proved what I am capable of". Sorry but it's just your beginning by the way! You are in a more intense race of proving yourself and what you are capable of. You must have heard success is a journey not a destination. Irony is you would always get the first hand experience of this in every sphere of your life. The more successful you are, the higher the hurdles are. I may sound a little controversial, but I would not mind sound one in this case. A person has to prove all in her life that, what she had achieved was not a mere fluke. Suppose someone got an Oscar for her role, now this actually would not make her successful. This would buy some more good projects and production names merely. But after that if you don't see her in any commendable role for last 10 years I am sure you would think she was an one-film-wonder. In a context of the film she would get the due credit but for others she would be a 'talent being wasted'. To die successful is a blessing very few taste. On the contrary there is another observation I have. People do not bother how unsuccessful you were as long as you are successful NOW. The same people who once jeered at you for being a mediocre will forget everything about your past and praise you for being super talented now. Again if you can not prove competent you would be labelled with the same tag in future. In spite of all the hardship and never-ending thrive, we love success. We love to taste the fine smooth texture of the gorgeous yet cruel part of the universe. We make ourselves compliant for it from the first day till the last. Success makes us more active, optimistic, gentle, loving and hungry for more success. I saw someone asked somewhere why successful people are successful in everything. It's interesting. The reason is simple because they are well aware of their capabilities and they know that there is no short cut to it. So, they put more energy, more time, more passion and eventually come out successful again. They relish the fame and bask in glory and then again start off for the journey. Reader, are you in for the trip? Some of the amazing stuffs are lying there beneath in the piles of garbage reality shows and talk dramas (shows). I have been following the series "What would you do" back there in Youtube quite often. Sometimes it gets me overwhelmed. How would we behave in a certain situation is a matter of relativity. Most of the time we believe we would/wouldn't do a certain thing but we can't be totally sure of it anyway. This show grabbed my attention for it's innovative ideas and social issues that really someday may affect me too. Being minority is not comforting, specially in this busy selfish world. But when you get support or see a blooming smile on the face of the person next to you, it gives you a little strength. All we want to be recognized and being valued for what we are but bullying or putting something with a race tag is a sheer disgrace on that. The video below is one of the finest examples of humanitarian act showed to someone less fortunate. There is a deeper meaning in helping someone, you want to make an environment which is helpful, so that one day you will be helped. It's an incredible kind of idea to make this world a better place. I always like to be a part or at least a supporter of a cause which makes positive difference to the world and makes it a better place to live. Yes, I do agree there will be people who would not understand it, who would be not so open to new positive ideas but still even one person in a community can make all the difference. So sleeve up and pitch yourself in - someone needs your help somewhere! What makes you successful? What are the magic traits needed to make you a headpin? Everyone else has talked about perseverance, hard work, time management, discipline and many more, the list will not stop here so early. Being great in one's own field is nice but not sufficient. To be great and to know how to project the greatness to the target people is something very decisive. I know my definition is getting merged with being famous, but this is how it is. I can be a very good writer but if I don't know how to reach to my readers I will find myself sitting on the pile of my own published-but-unsold books. Gone are the days (or was there 'these days' at all!) when people would only work putting down his face and success stories would be written about him on the other side. Your work has to be told by you and only you. No one would write the recipe of the dish you are making and would like to see you are eating the after math. This concept again has something to do with what is the meaning of success to you. If you think setting goals for your own and passing that is one, may be this article would make you laugh at. But if we think in general this is something broader and bigger. People's recognition and endorsement is pivotal in a success story. I don't know where to learn being shrewd, being tactful, being boasting, being able to show your ability in positive light but this takes the bigger share in the market of success. If you are a person with something extra ordinary (well ok ordinary!), don't hide it. Know how to attract people and tell them your story. The passion would be doubled once you would see the glittery eyes with your new ideas or new creations. People do change in time - well known to all of us. But do we seriously pay a heed on this? We give opinion or judgements on someone who we knew may be 10 years ago and now has mere contacts. This is not only true about negative traits but positive too. If I happened to know a guy of my school and we were pretty close but don't have much contact now, comes up one day, I would treat him the same way I did in my school days. But things might have changed, he might have changed, the changed might occurred to his thinking. Taking something for granted may be the worst we can do to someone based on his/her past encounter with us, same is true in positive way too. If someone wants opinion about someone I used to know ten years back, I might not be the right person to have the answer. Because the one decade might put a thick layer of dust on the particular guy's positive or negative traits I'd be saying. The same guy who was full of life that time, can be just another disgusted-about- everything kind of person now. So, to me judging someone I knew many years back is a big no no! What about you? Got this video while browsing TED and was impressed by the way this communication took place. He provided a logical way to prove his points, though controversial: Is there any future of traditional schools? It's quite intriguing as very few of scholars would say things like this. He wanted to mean that school is a barrier on creativity and also persuaded that examinations and contests make people shut their imagination door. Which partly is true too, when you are anxious about failing you may not come with some extravagant yet groundbreaking ideas. But though he had put significance on e-learning he did feel the urgency of group works. He had no problem in getting data from internet and placing it in your homework or research works (to him they are already there, why we need to learn or do the cycle again?!) but he wanted them to be repeated and being discussed. By this overly discussion the students will learn more and will not forget what they just learned. And he doesn't claim only over the air but also proved it in every instances which makes it unique. I had (have) the same concept like this. We should have a school online, there can be thousand of ways to maintain it. Like what Sugata Mitra just said: No boundary of lessons, just learning what makes interest. Another can be totally mainstream but with a great innovation and practicality from class 1 to 12, because Universities have already started doing this kind of job. If this can be done and internet can be ensured to every corner of the world, this single handedly will change the facet of the future learning. It is a high time to think about the school system which has been made hundred (or many more) years ago. |
A little heads upThe Blogorama is collection of my daily blog. Whereas category "Things made my life awesome" talks about my past wonderful experiences in an ascending order, "Now in my mind" says the issues I like my opinion on. "Life, in making" is recently started daily log (not so daily!), "Meditation" is something I come back so often, thought that would interest YOU too. Well, that sums it up (almost). Me,A constant dreamer, believe this is not the end of the world and try to make changes in my own life constantly. Life sometimes went hard and strict-my life's choices would determine whether I have taken them as lessons or punishment. My Quote'If you think someone else is the problem and is not letting you do certain things, that implies you perceive yourself a victim. Being victim is letting the person win. If you really want to make a statement: Ignore him. Blogories
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